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A while ago, I sat down with influence coach Lacy Schoen to talk about influence in academia and how to use it to advance our careers. You can listen to the podcast episode here<\/span><\/a><\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lacy and I had been working on building my influencing skills to advance a mission that is dear to my heart, namely creating a fully inclusive environment at the research institute that I’ve been working at for the last six years.<\/span><\/p>\n

Over the last year and a half, I built and chaired a group of people dedicated to this mission.<\/span><\/p>\n

I used the tools that Lacy recommends for building relationships and influencing to give leadership a chance to hear more voices.<\/span><\/p>\n

It wasn’t easy, but after a year or so we were getting somewhere. I finally negotiated a seat at the table with the all-white male institute leadership. Mind you, that’s been agreed to but hasn’t happened yet.<\/span><\/p>\n

And who knows if it will because then this happened:<\/span><\/p>\n

I had been working for a while on moving institutions. Nothing personal, I liked my workplace (until recently…). But after 6 years in the same place, I got antsy about advancing my career. My husband Steve and I also didn’t enjoy small-city living in the middle of the Appalachian mountains  that much.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I interviewed, got a job offer and made this known to my boss. All well mapped out and planned.<\/span><\/p>\n

The thing I didn’t expect?<\/span><\/p>\n

Said boss, who had been doing what he’d been doing for a very long time, responded rather surprisingly. At least I thought it was surprising, because I’ve been the proverbial “good girl”. I didn’t cause trouble, brought in grants, published papers, sat on committees, behaved like a good citizen.<\/span><\/p>\n

Despite my relationship-building and continued service to the institute, obstacle after obstacle has been thrown in my way, making it challenging and stressful to organize the lab move.<\/span><\/p>\n

I won’t bore you with all the details but that’s why I felt inadequate sending you a podcast about influence<\/span><\/a><\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

In my eyes, I recently failed at influence.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s been a very humbling experience to be treated as if I did something wrong, being ghosted and, after weeks of silence, told \u201cno\u201d to things that would have made the transition easier, still not directly but via messenger.<\/span><\/p>\n

But then it occurred to me: In about four weeks, the lab will move. I will get everything I really wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

– <\/span>I will have a fantastic opportunity to uplevel my career.<\/span><\/p>\n

– <\/span>I influenced key team members to move with me, so I won’t start from scratch.<\/span><\/p>\n

– <\/span>Steve and I found our dream house and will once again live in a place we love, surrounded by people we love.<\/span><\/p>\n

I still wonder whether more badass influencing skills could have created a different, more pleasant experience for myself and my team. I guess I will never know.<\/span><\/p>\n

I made a distinction though. <\/span>Building influence doesn’t mean you are agreeable all the time.<\/span> As you see from my story, that doesn’t earn you the respect that you need to produce the desired results. Check out the podcast<\/span><\/a> to learn more about what influence really is.<\/span><\/p>\n

What it is not: A guarantee that all people like you all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the future, please call me out on my bullshit when I go hide in a corner because not everything goes the way I desire. I guess it’s these life lessons that help us grow, maybe especially when it’s not pleasant.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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